A good conversation
Let’s not kid ourselves. Arabs are talkers. They love talking more than they love doing anything. It is a habit us GCC-ers have mastered. The great thing about being able to converse about absolutely everything all day everyday is being able to appreciate a good conversation when you have it.
A few weeks ago I was introduced to my mentor, we ended up conversing for a few hours after we just met.
A good conversation has the ability to do a few things to your system. Some of the symptoms include: hyperness and alterness of all your senses, eyes wide open, the soaking of information, listening for vast periods at a time, endless list of questions, no awareness f time. It is one of the best feelings ever, because your brain is being stimulated and your mind is being fed, because you feel that some sort of value is being added to your life through the transmitting of good relatable information.
It made me realize that the more good conversation I had with my mentor the less interested I became in conversing with anyone else. The more I stimulated my mind with good conversation the less I could do my usual daily meaningless conversation. You get addicted to the stimulation, sometimes passing on certain get togethers because there seems to be no value in the conversation.
I decided to identify and organize the three types of stimulaters worth engaging in:
Type 1 Group Stimulation
Group conversation stimulation can happen when conversing, interacting, discussing subject of interest with one or more persons. This is vital for a creative person or an entrepreneur because you are in the business of solving problems and tackling briefs. Group discussions allow you to share your personal insights and learn from others, it also stretches your capacity to discuss ideas and general issues that can be of value in the future. These are also somewhat superficial and you might find yourself discussing similar subjects over and over again, with no one challenging another. These sessions are enjoyable and interesting and safe.
Type 2 Goal Stimulation
Goal stimulation is in a higher category than the group type, as it occurs when conversing, interacting, discussing subjects of interest with one or more persons in which your goals are aligned. This is far more stimulating for the brain because those you are interacting with have a similar end game and agenda as yourself. You can benefit more from these conversations and apply what you learn with your group or person in your actual personal life or career. This is also beneficial because the conversations become more intense, those around you understand you and are able to relate to you. They also have a bigger impact in the direction your life takes.
Type 3 Mentoring Stimulation ( Master Stimulation )
The best of the three types is when you meet, interact, converse, with your ONE master stimulator. Not only should your goals align with this person, but they should be of more value to you as the stimulator in this case is also a life coach and mentor. In this case I would suggest this relationship be more of a one to one basis, as your are more likely to get plenty of attention and focus from the conversations that way. These sessions are addictive, long, stimulating, and should have a natural flow to them. They should feel mutual with the mentor feeling a deeper sense of responsibility towards the other, but should also be beneficial in both cases when conversing. If you have met your master stimulator or have come across them, then you are in luck as they are hard to find. If you think you know who could be your master stimulator it would worth approaching them. Either way this is a two way street and the conversation should be beneficial to the mentor and the apprentice with both challenging each other along the way.
We can all be stimulated through conversation, but those that can add value through it are the ones worth pursing a relationship with.